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November 19, 2020 • General

Katie Walters is why this podcast started. Not the literal reason, but the embodiment of it – a woman you’d see across a party or in your social media feed and think, “That woman has it all together.” She’d want you to know there’s far more than meets the eye.

Katie is a stylish, joyful mother, due with her seventh any day now, and smitten wife to her pastor husband. She is CEO of a thriving missional fashion line, an encouraging social media presence, and somehow finds time to co-author a book about marriage with her husband, Josh.

That book in process, though? It documents the lessons gleaned from a marital crisis more than a decade ago. At the time, Katie had given her heart away and doubted she could ever view her husband as more than a roommate. Thirteen years later, their marriage is living proof that there’s always more than meets the eye.

Katie embraces her gifts as a mother and lets the women around her help fill in the gaps. She pursues social justice and racial equality through her partnership with Togolese community leaders, Francis and Benedict, after whom she named the business that provides them with resources.

She speaks candidly about counting the seasons we have with our children, and watching them become even better than their parents are in many ways. You’ll love Katie’s perspective on what to share on social media and how to find a balance between authenticity and “bleeding out.”

Learn more about Francis + Benedict at @francisandbenedict or francisandbenedict.com. You can connect with Katie at @katiewalters on Instagram.

This week’s conversation is sponsored by Christy Hollywood Photography. Find examples of Christy Hollywood-Lynn’s incredible work at @christyhollywoodphotography on Instagram or christyhollywoodphotography.com. Whether you need social media content, branding photography, or family and lifestyle portraits, her portfolio speaks for itself.

As always, you can find me at @butnotallatonce; I’d love to hear your thoughts! Take care, y’all, and I’ll speak to you next week. xoxo

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  • 3 simple ways to honor each others past while building a new identity:

Practice Curiosity not Criticism or Comparing

Instead of evaluating each other’s past (That’s weird/ My family did it better), choose curiosity.

Try this:
Ask: “What did that mean to you growing up?”
Share: “Here’s what that tradition felt like for me…”

2. Name What You Want to Keep, Release, and Rebuild

Every couple needs to intentionally decide:
Keep → What from our past is life-giving?
Release → What patterns do we NOT want to carry forward?
Rebuild → What do we want to create that’s uniquely ours?

3. Create New Rhythms That Reflect Both of You

Your marriage isn’t meant to mirror one family, it’s meant to become a new culture.

Start small:
A weekly meal or tradition from each background
A shared rhythm (Friday night check-in, prayer, or date night)
Celebrating holidays in a blended, intentional way

You’re not choosing between two histories, you’re authoring a third story together.
  • If you want to “win” a marriage argument you can’t make your spouse the looser! Take the challenge and put it on the table so you can win the problem together. Two become One flesh!
  • Is there anyone else who struggles to let something go? 🙋🏻‍♀️ Well thanks to @lesandleslie for teaching us “The hand squeeze” principal!
Let us know in the comments if you have any other good tools to stop beating a dead horse!
  • Happy Easter! Jesus defeated death so that we could have abundant life. Jesus holds the Victory over your story and marriage, let Him be your living Hope! 
John 10:10
3 simple ways to honor each others past while building a new identity: Practice Curiosity not Criticism or Comparing Instead of evaluating each other’s past (That’s weird/ My family did it better), choose curiosity. Try this: Ask: “What did that mean to you growing up?” Share: “Here’s what that tradition felt like for me…” 2. Name What You Want to Keep, Release, and Rebuild Every couple needs to intentionally decide: Keep → What from our past is life-giving? Release → What patterns do we NOT want to carry forward? Rebuild → What do we want to create that’s uniquely ours? 3. Create New Rhythms That Reflect Both of You Your marriage isn’t meant to mirror one family, it’s meant to become a new culture. Start small: A weekly meal or tradition from each background A shared rhythm (Friday night check-in, prayer, or date night) Celebrating holidays in a blended, intentional way You’re not choosing between two histories, you’re authoring a third story together.
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If you want to “win” a marriage argument you can’t make your spouse the looser! Take the challenge and put it on the table so you can win the problem together. Two become One flesh!
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Is there anyone else who struggles to let something go? 🙋🏻‍♀️ Well thanks to @lesandleslie for teaching us “The hand squeeze” principal! Let us know in the comments if you have any other good tools to stop beating a dead horse!
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Happy Easter! Jesus defeated death so that we could have abundant life. Jesus holds the Victory over your story and marriage, let Him be your living Hope! 
John 10:10
Happy Easter! Jesus defeated death so that we could have abundant life. Jesus holds the Victory over your story and marriage, let Him be your living Hope! 
John 10:10
Happy Easter! Jesus defeated death so that we could have abundant life. Jesus holds the Victory over your story and marriage, let Him be your living Hope! John 10:10
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