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November 10, 2019 • General

Josh Walters

Josh and his wife Katie have six children, AnnaJaye, Abigail, Abel, Asher, Ari, and Anthem (The A-Team). They’ve been married for 17 years and Josh has been a pastor at Seacoast Church for 10 years. This is the first half of our dadAWESOME conversation where we explore intentional connection before bedtime, creating celebration moments of becoming teenagers and reflections about the generosity of his dad.

Conversation Notes:

  • 3:08 – Josh introduces his family
  • 6:13 – Some family highlights for shiny eyed fun moments
  • 8:15 – Josh explains the joy of being a “church family” and their kids loving their local church
  • 9:15 – Parenting Hacks sermon from Josh https://youtu.be/ymx7y1jzOeE
  • 10:22 – One of Josh’s biggest dad struggles = “Will you lay down with me?” being asked of him by his kids… Quality connection with each child.
  • 12:15 – That connection question; “Will you lay down with me?” will stopped being asked at around 11 or 12 years old
  • 14:20 – “Do your best to make yourself lay down and connect with your kids at bedtime even when you mind is saying that you need to do dishes and sweep the floor”
  • 15:20 – Connecting with his daughters and giving them more freedom as they turned 13 years old
  • 17:25 – Intentional celebration moment of stepping into a new season from a girl into being a young woman
  • 21:15 – Stories about Josh’s dad
  • 23:40 – “My greatest challenge is the giving of my time. Managing it all. The house, the family, life and prioritizing my time”
  • 25:15 – Josh processes the journey of losing his father and processing the loss with his kids
  • 28:15 – “It was very hard and very beautiful having a closer proximity to the final year of his dads life for the grandkids”
  • 28:50 – Having a specific day to remember and celebrate Josh’ father
  • 29:20 – Josh’ dad was a father and grandfather to a lot more kids and grandkids than just his own family
  • 30:40 – “Death became very close, so the idea of Heaven and eternal life and even just the pain of grief… I think they (my kids) got to experience loss in a way and see parents grieving and pain and stuff that I think the enemy would want to use as a weapon against us later in life… and that’s a natural normal part of life that they got to walk through with us and that was just such a special season.”

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DA Idea:

  • Create a unique version of Rock, Paper, Scissors.
  • Recently my 5 yr-old daughter and I made up a version including our baby, our Golden doodle dog and a kitty cat. We call it Boomer, Kitty, Raya and it was a simple fun creation that involved my daughter helping me create the characters and the order of victory.
  • Boomer is bigger and stronger then Kitty.
  • Kitty scares Raya with it’s claws.
  • Raya wins Boomers heart.
  • So Boomers beats Kitty, Kitty beats Raya and Raya beats Boomer.
  • Our hand gestures are; all 5 fingers up like a high-5 for Boomer (he has long curly hair that sticks up)
  • Pointer finger and middle finger up like a peace sign for Kitty (like a cats pointy ears)
  • Just the thumb up for Raya (like a baby sucking it’s thumb).
  • Boomer, Kitty, Raya, shoot…
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  • There is usually one whose idea of “fun” is getting stuff done. 🫠 Play can seem silly, or even unproductive, but research tells a different story. 
Novel, playful experiences activate the brain’s reward system, create stronger emotional memories, and help couples feel more connected by breaking out of everyday routines.
Literally getting a doctorate to justify being childlike. 😉
So let’s make this a no boring date nights (or days) summer! 
Drop your most creative idea in the comments so we can help those work as play people out!
  • Happy wedding T + T!!! I have been thinking about what I would write to you in a wedding card way to long 😂 so here it is from me to you:

Dearest Taylor and Travis,

Thank you. I believe your love story, like all great ones, is changing the world. 

I want you to know as someone who has been married 24 years, has a court in the back yard and a whole block of children looking like him.
Your wish list is full of wisdom and truly is the good stuff of life! 

However, it will cost you as much as life of a showgirl. Make no mistake.
The alter is where you come to die, dedicate and find a new life of your dreams. Make this a daily practice.

Cheering you on forever, Josh + Katie
  • When you’re weird or desperate enough to come up with your grandparents names at 30 years old….and you get to use them way sooner than you dreamed!

Vision is key to an abundant marriage. Comment “name me” and we will DM you a short and sweet grandparent name guide.

We are leading a couple through a vision retreat this coming weekend and we would love to take you along with us. Hopefully it will give you some questions you can use for your own!
  • Growing in friendship with your spouse is one of the strongest predictors of long-term marital happiness.

When we stopped trying to fix everything…. and started rebuilding friendship. That changed everything.

1. Turn Toward Each Other in Small Moments

Respond to each other’s “bids for connection” yes even sending and responding to reels your spouse sends 😉small attempts to engage like sharing a story, asking a question, making a joke, or reaching for affection.

When you consistently turn toward instead of ignoring or dismissing, friendship deepens over time.

2. Stay curious about each other’s inner world: stresses, dreams, fears, goals, favorite things, current pressures.

People change over time. Friendship grows when you keep learning your spouse instead of assuming you already know them.
Ask:

* What’s been weighing on you lately?
* What are you excited about right now?
* How can I support you this week?

3. Prioritize Positive Shared Experiences

Research shows couples need regular positive interactions to buffer stress and conflict. Friendship is strengthened through enjoyment, novelty, laughter, and teamwork.
Examples:

* Walk after dinner
* Coffee on the porch
* Cooking together
* Trying something new
* Inside jokes and playful texting

Marriage often weakens not from one big event, but from neglected friendship. Romance may fluctuate, but friendship can be built daily.
There is usually one whose idea of “fun” is getting stuff done. 🫠 Play can seem silly, or even unproductive, but research tells a different story. Novel, playful experiences activate the brain’s reward system, create stronger emotional memories, and help couples feel more connected by breaking out of everyday routines. Literally getting a doctorate to justify being childlike. 😉 So let’s make this a no boring date nights (or days) summer! Drop your most creative idea in the comments so we can help those work as play people out!
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Happy wedding T + T!!! I have been thinking about what I would write to you in a wedding card way to long 😂 so here it is from me to you: Dearest Taylor and Travis, Thank you. I believe your love story, like all great ones, is changing the world. I want you to know as someone who has been married 24 years, has a court in the back yard and a whole block of children looking like him. Your wish list is full of wisdom and truly is the good stuff of life! However, it will cost you as much as life of a showgirl. Make no mistake. The alter is where you come to die, dedicate and find a new life of your dreams. Make this a daily practice. Cheering you on forever, Josh + Katie
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When you’re weird or desperate enough to come up with your grandparents names at 30 years old….and you get to use them way sooner than you dreamed! Vision is key to an abundant marriage. Comment “name me” and we will DM you a short and sweet grandparent name guide. We are leading a couple through a vision retreat this coming weekend and we would love to take you along with us. Hopefully it will give you some questions you can use for your own!
3 weeks ago
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Growing in friendship with your spouse is one of the strongest predictors of long-term marital happiness. When we stopped trying to fix everything…. and started rebuilding friendship. That changed everything. 1. Turn Toward Each Other in Small Moments Respond to each other’s “bids for connection” yes even sending and responding to reels your spouse sends 😉small attempts to engage like sharing a story, asking a question, making a joke, or reaching for affection. When you consistently turn toward instead of ignoring or dismissing, friendship deepens over time. 2. Stay curious about each other’s inner world: stresses, dreams, fears, goals, favorite things, current pressures. People change over time. Friendship grows when you keep learning your spouse instead of assuming you already know them. Ask: * What’s been weighing on you lately? * What are you excited about right now? * How can I support you this week? 3. Prioritize Positive Shared Experiences Research shows couples need regular positive interactions to buffer stress and conflict. Friendship is strengthened through enjoyment, novelty, laughter, and teamwork. Examples: * Walk after dinner * Coffee on the porch * Cooking together * Trying something new * Inside jokes and playful texting Marriage often weakens not from one big event, but from neglected friendship. Romance may fluctuate, but friendship can be built daily.
3 months ago
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