Like it or not our disconnection in marriage is rarely accidental, it’s either scheduled or unscheduled. Take a glance this week and ask yourself the honest question: is my marriage my top priority?

Where in your calendar can you choose each other? It’s never easy to schedule time for the important over the urgent. Your highest priority will be reflected on your calendar, so look at the upcoming weeks and invest in your marriage.

“What is really going on here?” Such a great question to ask whenever one of you is worked up. “Is there a deeper emotional need that my spouse has?” Tag or send this to your spouse and tell them, hold me accountable to getting better at this! We all have more to grow in when it comes to love and hard conversations.

3 simple ways to honor each others past while building a new identity: Practice Curiosity not Criticism or Comparing Instead of evaluating each other’s past (That’s weird/ My family did it better), choose curiosity. Try this: Ask: “What did that mean to you growing up?” Share: “Here’s what that tradition felt like for me…” 2. Name What You Want to Keep, Release, and Rebuild Every couple needs to intentionally decide: Keep → What from our past is life-giving? Release → What patterns do we NOT want to carry forward? Rebuild → What do we want to create that’s uniquely ours? 3. Create New Rhythms That Reflect Both of You Your marriage isn’t meant to mirror one family, it’s meant to become a new culture. Start small: A weekly meal or tradition from each background A shared rhythm (Friday night check-in, prayer, or date night) Celebrating holidays in a blended, intentional way You’re not choosing between two histories, you’re authoring a third story together.